A day, the author sits the bus goes to work, the car goes to some site, far foresight drives car person from be apart 50 meters of far ground direction sites run, left hand carries a big package, there is a little boy of 67 years old on the back, run walking is hardly continuously, kubla khah dripping wet... did not wait for him to arrive, the bus already arrived to send car time, be forced. Imagining the person that drive a car to staring at the bus that drives breathlessly, disappointed expression cans be imagined, probably he should drive the train, give far door, can because of this by accident Where is car? He carries that little boy of 67 years old on the back, should can very tantivy is over 50 meters distance, why doesn't he play the child's hand, at the same time Where is tantivy?

Actually, in our daily life, have how many father and mother again this father is same above the elephant, decrease without ego not only negative, and in ego pressurization? In their eye, the child is a not sensible, a mean person that grows not big, need to take care of forever. They are chasing after the child that runs in disorder everywhere readily to feed a meal readily, endurance is dye-in-the-wood, although the child can have used dinner service; They give the child excrement make water, be very happy with it, although the child can have sat bed pan; They are being held in the arms carrying the child on the back to enter garden even, all the way laugh, although the child learns to walk already... such, they turn round the child everyday, tired dog-tired, however be perfectly satisfied. Eventually one day, they feel incorrect interest: Why the child of others can be smooth and steady have a meal, oneself child however cannot? Why the child relieve oneself of others can provide for oneself, is oneself child done however? Why the hand that the child of others can play father and mother is cheerful the nursery school on the ground, is oneself child still crying to let mom hold in the arms however? ... see these difference, some parents begin to blame the child: "You see family ╳ ╳, what can oneself are done, you! " " you how so stupid, what won't! " the child cannot get a help to endure example even, want to cry of course, adult all the more is rusty, such, form a kind of vicious circle. However, create this kind of situation after all whose fault? Be the child really stupid? Not be of course, just is parents monopolize replace the clever gas that manacled the child, also make oneself busy between family and career whacked, be mentally and physically exhausted.

In the time of this intense competition, each young father and mother can feel a kind of aeriform pressure possibly. Change quickly of science and technology, information high speed develops, should follow to go up the pace of the times, with respect to need we learn new knowledge ceaselessly, master new technology to enrich raise oneself. If be in the family, of every parenthood can learn ego to decrease negative, in can winning many time to devote into the job at oneself and study. Of course, this kind of ego is decreased negative, no matter pay no attention to,be not pair of children, let things drift, teach the child however, him thing that oneself can do is done, the thing that won't do is learning to do, regard the child as an independent person will foster. The child with small age, can teach them institutional ego service first, if oneself have a meal, clad relieve oneself, oneself wash oneself hands, wash a foot, wash handkerchief, sock to wait; The child with a bit older age, can arrange them to help adult do the business of a few in one's power, if brush a table, sweep the floor, pour rubbish, even trim vegetable for cooking, brush a bowl, wash clothes cook etc... make the child mastered work skill not only so, fostered the child to love the good convention of labor, also make parent leave out the time that serves for the child, can more energies do other businesses.
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