In the whole nation 20 many cities had become lecture, Dr. Yue Xiaodong that holds the position of visiting professor of 9 colleges of countrywide, combine oneself growing experience, 10 when said 21 centuries child mainly " society " .
Yue Xiaodong says, modern society, parents gives the child the biggest best gift nothing is more... than gives the child a perfect character. Let the child grow healthily, be about church child 10 " society " :
Want to learn to bear hardships, do not know hardship now, do not know in the future sweet, teach the self-improvement in child adversity; 2 should learn to create, actually the child does not lack creativity, lack the appreciate to creativity however, the society is created even if the society succeeds; 3 it is institutional love parents, know parental favour; 4 it is institutional care mental health, can accept already praise also can be upset by unkindness, it is coequal and important that this cherishs the body together; 5 it is institutional appreciation other, admire his and admiring another person is narcissism, admire another person and admiring his is self-abased, admiring his to admire another person again already is self-confident; 6 it is institutional self-criticism, self-criticism is not ego denies, however ego is incentive; 7 it is institutional self-study, this becomes independent therefore this; 8 it is institutional ego design, know ego ceaselessly, breakthrough ego; 9 it is institutional humour, humour is the outstanding performance of creativity, also be the fine medicine that reduces life trouble; 10 it is to learn to provide for oneself the life.
5 words say with the parent
When Zhang Zhigang teachs the art in tuitional and successful family education, send parents 5 words:
The first word: Should encourage forever to the child over blame. Notice the child " ego feels " very important, a person has what kind of " ego feels " can become what kind of person;
The 2nd word: The parent should have adjusted his state of mind, not too urgent, have gentle state of mind, ability is thought up and use the most appropriate family education method, ability is affected and also develop healthy disposition of the child;
The 3rd word: Give the child a bit patience more, listen to the child to say more. The child says without the word to the parent now, because the parent did not give the child enough patience and time,be, fail " sympathize " oneself child;
The 4th word: Do not look down upon the character and morals to the child to teach, entering again good school also is not a purpose, successful obtain employment and lifelong and happy ability are a purpose, the attention develops the child's quality and style, include adolescent education;
The 5th word: Create a good study atmosphere to the child. Want quiet, have read atmosphere, want to become the consideration with due around of good child exam.
Pay close attention to child mental health
"My son this year 7 years old, very indrawn, the boy does not play with him, he loves to play with the girl, how to reverse this kind of condition? " " my child went up madly game, be fed up with study, how can I just persuade him? "" I learn to broadcast, always criticize me because of teacher of the first semester, mike of at sight of fears now, how to do? " after the lecture yesterday morning ends, meaning still unexhausted citizen came to store restaurant again yesterday afternoon, communicate face-to-face with the expert.
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