(8) the attempt is humorous

When you see humorous and interesting thing whether happy laugh does phonate come? Occasionally, we collect a few humorous and curious and eccentric, droll pictures, put them in the point that sees at any time, whether to often meet the eye to let him understanding laugh? This was opposite! When encountering setback, mood distresses, write down! so do.

In fact, we are clear, there is a person on the world is apple-pie, parents is before children, faulty or what admit with humour and laugh and accept oneself is wrong, "Him pastime, recreation everybody " the wisdom that is a height, such performance can be being shown personally religion, let children understand everybody has when erring, the calm is accepted and processing just is correct path.

(9) strike back unreasonable belief

If a few changes of the above-listed are politic, when still cannot producing the result in anticipating, you need possibly also to be done in the light of belief some of consideration and adjust. The method that changes conviction has 2 kinds:

1. Face a challenge

The failure of breeding children may make parents feel crestfallen, occasionally crestfallen feeling can make a person lose difficult to did not take a risk make nerve, and block up the adjustment of breeding manner and behavior. When if you feel to enrage,putridding, can ask oneself this kind of feeling and unreasonable belief can bring about what kind of result. To avoid risk, often lose the chance of successful breeding children, is such cost worth while? Be inferior to facing the challenge of crestfallen mood bravely, the evaluation needs how many time to remove such mood and span the block up that grow, give oneself a clear-cut decision, protocol faces a challenge to the plan.

2. Bear a responsibility

Feel when oneself special dismay, vexed when, parents is OK the opinion that postmortem heart delivers a mood about bringing, face with imminet disaster, cannot bear, self-righteous, self-condemned wait for unreasonable belief purify, arise till rational sense and mood.

These practice by politicly, the reason that believes parents can be perplexed to the mood spreads out strike back, build more reasonable, correct belief.

Happy and competent parents part can offer children good " " , let them occupy gift again with thrive; they " wing " , let them be able to volant Gao Fei, lay solid foundation for them, engraft the goodness of self-confident self-love. We cannot expect the child lives in conservatory all one's life, the build and paddles his own canoe disposition of their character, the contact that hang on group lives, and interact with the companion the experience of study. In childhood period, they are likely the safe feeling with sufficient bring into contact with, so ego is like uneasiness of fear of unfortunate bring into contact with with respect to; of can healthy figuration, criterion ego can be destroyed before figuration at aeriform. And in the life of in the future, this child is experienced possibly also be admitted, by esteem, or it is to be repelled, suffer distain wait for different experience. Of course, child child people it is likely also between parental protection and freedom, get balancing; or be the protection that be protected by exceeding and cannot break away from infantile period; or is not worth, be exceeded by the requirement child susceptive ability. These two kinds of case, develop those who affect ego and self-esteem. Parenting person how do the belief that has to examine oneself deep and manner affect him the education of two pairs daughter, learn the ability that enhances oneself then, can safeguard the way education child of parental right again with breaking democracy, the hope can produce openly effect to filial life.
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