Guide language: Mr. Zhong Meifang that teachs for a long time in elementary school, show level for investigation 7 ～ the study burden problem of 8 years old of children, undertook to 280 students questionnaire is investigated, result discovery, double cease the child of an interest class is occupied 11.6% , of class of on two interest occupy 46.7% , of class of on 3 interest occupy 21.5% , still have class of on the classmate of 8.2% 4 interest even, and do not sign up for what the class does not make up a missed lesson to be occupied only 12% . The questionnaire investigation that occupies 1000 dragon net additionally to grow to 5000 a person of academic or artistic distinction is informed, female netizen of 40 years old admits 25 ～ to there always is what pressure feeling and angst feel to occupy on child education 22.5% ; Often have pressure, occupy to what the friend pours out constantly 31.4% ; Have pressure sometimes, can communicate with the spouse commentate those who press occupy 27.6% ; These 3 scale is male netizen respectively 8.4% , 12.6% , 15.3% .

This shows, the mental efforts cost that parents fosters children and financial capacity cost not only increased greatly, and in child growing process, often be in excess load condition. Nowadays, suffer from for this on the angst disease, depressed disease, parents common occurance that forces disease, and pressure of maternal susceptive psychology exceeds father greatly again. One part is married because the family is right educational issue opinion of children is differ, and appeared contradictory conflict, become at present married couple is divided in the city " affair " besides, rank second divorce inducement.

So, parents answer how mutual cooperation, timely decompression, teach good child jointly? We listen to the proposal of a few father and mother that have insight first.

　　 One of parent viewpoints: Child homework is good, is parents happy in the future? That but may not. (Qian Wei, 36 years old, accountant, the child is 10 years old)

Be in our China, why child take an examination ofing is bad, most of with bitter hatred is not the child, however parents? I think, this and traditional domestic idea are concerned. A lot of parents female to the singleton special on spirit depend on, forcing the child has prospect, do not permit the child " die out like that everybody " , in the final analysis disputes reputation for oneself namely, old can have backer. This is a lot of claiming " I am good for you " a self that parents says to be not exported. However, the parents such as outstanding child is old, does true meeting stay beside you to use up filial piety heart? NO! Hong Zhaoguang of nutrient Great Master ever spoke of, what kind of old people is the happiest, what kind of old person is the most alone and frustrated, I very suffer inspire. He says, the happiest old person is the lord that pulls flatbed tricycle child, the girl sells a fruit in alley mouth, the son repairs a bicycle in door mouth, occupied cry to come completely, contain maltose to do Sun Jile to happy and harmonious; The most alone and frustrated old person is the old professor in the university, children is in abroad completely, think the child sees on video see pretty good, christmas sends 1000 U.S. dollors a piece of card comes, calculated heart of complete filial piety. Whose happy feeling is more, we look to know. Actually, big professor is not the goes blocking children future road that is called parents, call parents to fasten however so eye of a muscle, give up the idea forever, light is with high component of the child happy, it is Bei with small fraction of the child. Change character, the child can bring honor to parents, but the material benefit that can not bring inquire after sb's health certainly. If our be enlightened this, because the child was not taken an examination of,won't be duped difficult at least Tsinghua, Beijing University and depressed.
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